listen to your skin
I will share with you some of the messages that I got through my skin, which are also beautiful examples of the workings of emotional intimacy and relational artistry.
Taken from my facebook wall:
< October 1st 2017 >
Raw sharing:
So... this morning I woke up looking like Planet Earth....
Ultimate test of surrendering vs. going into victim mode and scratching like a mad woman like I’ve done for the past 32 years whenever my skin would go wild.
Finally giving shame, disgust, fear, sadness and anger the space to breathe 👌🏼❤️
Skin update:
This is what my leg looked like 24 hours after the last picture I posted.
In the past, similar flare-ups would’ve taken 2 or 3 weeks to calm down. Now it took 1 day for all of these moving patches to pass on every square mm of my body before disappearing, leaving my skin soft and shiny.
I chose to confront it differently this time.
No creams, no oils, no going through medical literature, no running to doctors, no detox protocols, no trying to sleeping it off, but...
Bringing awareness to my emotions.
I finally allowed myself to be supported in navigating through the different emotions we experience as human beings.
I was numb to so many of them for so long and lacked the litteracy to share what was going on in my inner world.
Not knowing what anger felt like - the supression of it, not recognizing when fear came up, not being aware of the huge amounts of shame and disgust that I was carrying... Until someone called them out for me. Until I let someone call them out for me.
So, 2 nights ago, I had a sofa session with my man.
When “stuff” comes up that needs to be addressed, we move to the couch and talk it through.
When we first met a few months back and started our sofa sessions, there was not much conversation happening. I would be paralyzed by shame and fear, not able to utter a single word, when he would call out what was happening with me emotionally.
I then started tapping into my anger for the first time, feeling how it was actually the power and fire that I needed to create things in this reality. Stepping into my power. Feeling more. Feeling what others are feeling. Feeling connected to everyone and everything.
So, this skin thingie appearing...
Hatred was the topic of the sofa session.
“How do I define hate?”, I asked myself. I had no answer to this question, which showed me how numb I had been to it.
Hate and disgust are two words that may sound very strong and that we tend to easily dissociate from.
After hearing about hate being the combination of anger, shame, disgust and fear and feeling deeply into it for myself, acknowledging its presence in me, I could immediately feel a shift in frequency and in my skin.
Doing emotional intimacy work, working with and through emotions, together with my partner, has been the quickest, most transformative, effective, everlasting experience.
I appreciate your presence deeply Chris Cheung 😍
Dear skin, thank You. I’m glad I’m finally hearing your messages 🙏🏼
It’s funny, in the past, I would be complaining about my skin condition in an attempt to get attention, love and support.
Now that I give myself the support and love I need and just rawly share parts of my healing journey, I’m flooded with tips and messages of support and compassion, which I am so deeply grateful for. Gratitude to all of You who reached out ❤️❤️❤️
If you are struggling with skin issues and you want guidance on your journey for a deeper understanding, I'm here for you.
Understanding Your Skin Training
Oraia Marilyn will share with you ways to help you understand your skin. She will share from personal experience ways that helped her and are helping her on her way to understanding her skin and all the states it has been in. The content of her toolbox is ginormous.
You will spend time with Oraia Marilyn while she tunes into what the root cause(s) of your “condition” is/are, in conversation with you. She will guide you through meditations, adapted specifically for you, share about the importance of grounding, find out together with you what emotional blockages might be present, teach you self-care and detox protocols, share with you the importance of heart-centeredness through exercises, the importance of sensuality and touch and emotional intimacy.
This session is preferably an in-person session that can take place outside in nature or any other location Client and Trainer agree upon.